Together now.

Do you know why I get so defensive the moment you say something about her?

Firstly because I believe there are not many people who realize that they naturally offer themselves to a predisposition that only takes on what they think is right. (You may think you’re right, but you may in fact be as flawed as a loophole.)

If you want a boat to balance on water, you either put nobody there, or you assign an equal number of people on each side.

And you. You of all people. I am so disappointed.

I don’t know which one you belong to- the ones who only FEEL or the ones who only THINK. But I guess that’s just humanly. Most people are like that anyway. They don’t recognize the importance of both coming together as a piece.

I have learnt to look at a picture as a whole sometimes, and not only in elaborate details because that’s what people do when they think they’re missing something. They forgot to look at things from a bigger perspective.

Sometimes, you have to be on both sides of the coin. You can’t only feel just because you have shared the same experience before. And you can’t only think because you think it is right.

Let me give you a good example.

Situation FEEL.

Lily confides in Lala about her cheating boyfriend. Lily can’t let her boyfriend go because she “loves him too much.” Lala understand because she has been through the same before. So Lala, FELT that Lily should just endure with her cheating boyfriend for the sake of love.

You know very well that’s plain dumb and stupid. Ok most girls will attack me back at this point. Whatever.

Situation THINK.

Lily confides in Rara about her cheating boyfriend. Lily can’t let her boyfriend go because she “loves him too much.” Rara do not understand the “loves him too much” part because she has never been in such a situation before. Therefore, she THOUGHT it would be the most ideal to kick that cheating boyfriend in his groin and let him get a taste of his own medicine.

Which is also wrong. You see, the Rara in that story is not putting herself in Lily’s shoe. So how can she just judge?

When people seek for me in a quest for comfort, I know... I know this very well:

They want you to agree with them on what they think

They need someone to back them up when they admit of facts that make them look horrible

Most importantly, they NEED to hear you say “It will be okay...” even in the deepest of shits.

I am human too. I only turn 19 this year.

And you. Look at you.

You know, she trusted you with her whole life. You are supposed to be that most sensible person anyone could rely on. At least I thought I did. What was your objective and why? You should have known all of these way better than I do.

But unlike you, I am able to feel and think for her.

I hope you know what you’re doing.

And I know you might be reading this. I am only asking you to respect her as an adult. Whatever she did, let her handle it responsibly on her own. Don't make things worse.